If you find yourself surrounded by no one but your ‘friends’ on the Internet, fear not, here are a few tips to restructure your social life.
1. Stop building walls.
It is normal to feel anxious to socialise when you have not interacted with friends/strangers face to face for a while. You will feel the need to build barriers, separation, and to play the comparison game. All of that creates fear. And so we build walls. But putting up walls tends to in the end hurt you more than protect you.
So change your mindset and build bridges instead! One way is to choose to be curious about people. Curiosity is filled with anticipation and enthusiasm. It opens you up. And when you are open and enthusiastic, you have more fun things to think about than focusing on your fear.
2. Stop focusing on yourself
Your underlying frame of mind – do you build bridges or walls? – will determine much about your interactions both new people and people you know. Instead of just keep looking at yourself as some sort of unmoving and objective observer of the world and reality, focus on others and find interesting things about them to start conversations!
3. Avoid being boring
Always be prepared to drop a subject when you start to bore people. One good way to have something interesting to say is simply to lead an interesting life and to focus on the positive stuff. Don’t start to whine about your boss or your job, people don’t want to hear that. Instead, talk about your last trip somewhere, some funny things that happened while you were buying clothes, your plans for the summer or something fun or exciting.
4. Focus outward
Becoming interested in people works better because it makes you a pleasant person. People treat you the way you treat them. Be interested in them and they will be interested in you.
6. Genuineness is #1.
Being your genuine self. Acting your real self will give you better results and more satisfaction in your day to day life because you are in alignment with yourself. And because people really like honesty.
Power of positivity is endless! Do not be afraid to make new friends. Join a new school society, practice a new sport at your local council or join a new lesson. The possibilities are endless. 🙂